Why Do I Not Want Friends?

Do you find yourself asking, “Why do I not want friends?” If so, you are in the right place.

At first it might seem strange that a person would not want any friends. What kind of weirdo would think that way, right?! Well you are not weird at all. I’d say it’s pretty normal to evaluate and wonder why you’d want to have a bunch of friends. Like any relationship, it takes a lot of time and effort to maintain and nurture them.

But what if you don’t want ANY friends? At that point, you might be wondering if that’s normal or not. And that’s what I wanted to discuss today!

In this post, we’ll answer the question of “Why do I not want friends?” It’s an interesting question that has many answers that we will go over. At the end of the article, we’ll see if wanting no friends is the right thing to do or not.

Without further ado, let’s get started.

You are too busy with your own life.

The first and probably the main reason you don’t want any friends is simply because you are way too busy with your own life. I can certainly relate to this, as I’ve been in this situation as well.

When you’re in your 30s, it’s hard to balance your work and family life, on top of seeing your friends. This is especially true if you have kids; the little ones require a ton of time and energy from you as a parent. And by the time you have some free time away from your kids, you either need to spend the rest of it on your other areas such as work. Or you simply just want to rest. You don’t even want to think about seeing friends!

This is pretty common when we are in our 30s and simply don’t have time to see friends. Especially in today’s economy, where we have to spend much more time AND money just to get by. If you feel like you just don’t have time for friends, don’t feel bad. It can be difficult to make time for them when you’re so busy with other things.

You may be too shy and/or introverted.

On the flip side, this one may be a truth bomb that you need to admit to yourself. You say you don’t want any friends, but is that the truth?

There are quite a few people who are incredibly shy and socially awkward to the point where they don’t want to push their comfort zone to meet new friends. You may say that you don’t want friends, but only because of the “pain” to foster new friendships. And you would totally would love to have friends if it involved not getting out of your shell.

If that describes you, then I suggest being honest with yourself. Do you want to have friends? Or you don’t want friends because you don’t want to feel socially awkward attempting to do so?

If you feel this way, then I want you to know that while you do need to get out of your comfort zone to meet new friends, social awkwardness is not a trait you’re stuck with! I myself was shy and socially awkward in the past. But as I got out of my own shell and learned to socialize with people, it got easier and more comfortable over time. And at some point, it became FUN to socialize and meet new friends. Like any other skill in life, it takes practice and experience to get better at socializing.

So if it’s your shyness or social skills holding you back from getting friends, you need to get out there and meet new friends! Click here to read my guide on how to socialize with others.

You are introverted.

I can certainly relate to this, as an introvert myself. As introverts, we can be adverse to not wanting friends. If anything, we prefer to be alone rather than with people. I know for me, I definitely need my “alone” time away from people to recharge my socializing batteries.

To introverts, friends can be even a nuisance in our minds. Because we have to manage and nurture the relationships, as well as socialize with them fairly often. Sometimes we rather be alone than go out and hangout with friends.

Now that doesn’t mean introverts hate their friends! Not at all. Introverts, like any other person, enjoy the company of others from time to time. But certainly not as often as extroverts. Sometimes friends can be overbearing and want to see you all the time, when you simply rather spend the time by yourself instead. So if you’re an introvert and rather sit at home to relax rather than go out at a bar with friends, then you’re not alone in thinking this way.

Should you have no friends?

Alright, here’s the question you’re probably looking for an answer for. Is it healthy or normal to have no friends?

Short answer: Yes if you have others filling your social needs.

Long answer: It really depends on your life situation. While in this post it may seem like friends are a negative to your life, that’s not the case at all. Friends are a very important aspect that will bring you happiness, emotional support and valuable company when you need it.

I would say that only if you have a sufficient family life where your family members and relatives are giving you your social needs met, then you can afford to not have friends. This may include your spouse, your cousins, aunt/uncle, parents, etc. Then in this scenario, your family can give you what you need socially.

But if you’re lonely and have no family or friends to talk to, then I’d say it’s essential to make new friends. No matter how introverted or anti-social you are, you do want friends you can count on and talk to. Having friends helps make us happier, feel more supported and comfortable with life. Even as an introvert myself, I couldn’t imagine a life without a single friend; it would be pretty lonely!

Conclusion

I hope you found this post informative and useful! Not wanting to have friends can be normal and depending on your situation, you may want to keep it that way or you may want to start looking for new ones today.

If you have any questions, leave them in the comments below!