Why Do I Have No Friends To Hangout With?
Do you find yourself saying, “I have no friends to hangout with?”
If so, then keep reading on.
We see all those people going to fancy parties, having a blast together at the cottage or at the park. Or you see people just relaxing watching a movie together or eating dinner at a restaurant.
You see all those people doing fun social activities…meanwhile you can’t do the same. Why? Because you have no friends to do that with. But it’s okay because it happens to the best of us. Whether you are lonely or you’re just busy all the time, you may have found yourself in a situation where you have no friends to go out with. If that’s the case, I’m here to help you today.
In this post, I’ll give you 3 things you can do if you have no friends to hangout with. If you are in need of people to spend time and socialize with, these strategies will help you find them. It doesn’t matter if you have no friends right now; everyone starts somewhere. And I will help you regain some friends or make new ones.
Without further ado, let’s get started.
1. Re-connect with old friends.
The first and probably easiest way to find friends to hangout with is by simply reconnecting with your old friends. If you are still connected with them through social media or have their phone number (yes remember when we used to call people), then reach out to them.
Because you’ve already built rapport and established a friendship in the past, it’s a lot easier to connect with them than someone that’s a total stranger. I know it may be somewhat awkward to talk to a friend or acquaintance you haven’t spoke to in months or even years. But trust me, a lot of old friends have positive memories with you. And if you reach out to them to see how they’re doing, some of them would love to see you again and hangout with you.
There was a friend who I hadn’t spoke to years because we were so busy in our lives. But it was close to my birthday and I wanted to invite as many people as I could to a restaurant dinner. I reached out to him and he immediately accepted to come out to my birthday dinner. Not only was it great to see and talk to him again, we got to enjoy some lovely food together!
So don’t be shy to reach out to an old friend. In fact, if you have no friends to hangout with, this is the easiest to find friends to socialize with.
2. Go to events you are interested in.
The next best thing you can do if you have no friends to hangout with; going to events you’re interested in. While going out to events and festivals may seem like an obvious thing to do, the places you choose to partake are more conductive to meeting new friends to hangout with.
You should start with the hobbies and interests you already are invested in. For example, if you’re into hiking and video games, you should absolutely go to events and meetups that are about video games and hiking. Not only will you be genuinely more interested in these events, you will find it easier to meet new people who are into the same things as you are. Certainly a lot easier than going to a random nightclub or regular social event where you feel like a small fish in a big pond.
There are many ways to find events that are catered towards your own interests and hobbies. I highly Meetup.com, as that’s a great site to meet all sorts of people in your town/city, and there are numerous groups specifically for different hobbies and interests. Also check out Eventbrite as you can find some really cool events that may not be as well-known but interesting to you. On top of that, municipal websites list all the events happening in the city.
3. Host your own events.
This is probably the most difficult way to meet friends if you don’t have any to hangout with, but it still works pretty well. Hosting your own events may seem intimidating. But I’ve been doing it for so many years and I started as a beginner back then. It takes some trial and error and a bit of organization but once you start hosting your own event, you’ll find them so much fun to do!
I recommend hosting your own events if you find that the other 2 methods aren’t working. So if you have no older friends to reconnect with, or there are really no events to attend, then you should make your own to bring people out! And do events that you’re interested in (e.g. hiking, a day at the arcade).
I myself have met many friends by hosting my own events. Of course, making new friends wasn’t my main focus when holding these events; it was to make sure that the attendees were having a good time. But people wanting to befriend me became natural as they appreciated my efforts and enjoyed being around me. I’ve used Meetup to host and share events to the public, as well as Facebook events. You should give it a try; it’s a lot of fun to host events and talk to new people!
Summary
To summarize, here are the 3 main ways to meet new friends if you have no friends to hangout with:
- Re-connect with old friends.
- Go to events you are interested in.
- Host your own events.
And there you have it; some solutions to finding new friends to hangout with. I hope you found this post useful! As you can see, just because you don’t have any friends right now, it doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. You can always find friends to hangout out, if you’re willing to put the time and effort.
If you have any questions or feedback, leave them in the comments below!
