“I Don’t Have Any Close Friends”

Do you find yourself saying, “I don’t have any close friends”?

If you are, then just know that you are not alone. In today’s world, it can be really difficult to make friends. With society being more dependent on online interactions, it is only more challenging to build close friends. And there may be other reasons that are preventing you from finding close friends, such as your personality and your opportunities.

Whatever your reasons may be, I am here to help. And today, that’s what we will be doing.

In this post, I’ll be answering the question, “I don’t have any close friends” and how to fix the problem. With these strategies, you’ll be on the right path to making close friends to hangout with. Having close friends is not easy but don’t worry, you can turn that around.

Without further ado, let’s get started.

List all the potential reasons why.

If you’re finding it difficult to keep or make close friends, it’s time to do some self-reflection. There can be so many reasons why you haven’t had any close friends. Let’s go through some reasons:

• Negative behaviors that turn people off.
• Inability to open up.
• Not giving yourself opportunities to meet new friends.
• Not nurturing or maintaining your friendships.
• You’re not being social enough.

It’s time to be honest with yourself and find out what these potential reasons may be. Not going out often enough and not socializing are probably the easiest to figure out and know. But unattractive behaviors or not being open enough is something you may not notice, and that could be an issue worth looking into.

Let’s go into further detail with some of these.

Opening up to people.

When I say you may need to open up, you’re probably thinking of socializing more. But that’s not quite it! How you talk to people is just as important.

When you talk to your friends, are you only talking about surface level conversations (e.g. your jobs, the weather, TV shows)? Or are you letting yourself be a little vulnerable and sharing more of your personal life (e.g. your family life, your strengths and weaknesses, your past relationships).

If you find yourself talking only surface level conversations, then you’ll find it difficult to make close friends. Without opening yourself up, how can you expect others to be closer to you? I know it may be hard to share more of yourself to people. But it’s necessary if you want your friends to be closer with you.

So if your conversations are not personal enough, it’s time to change that. Decide what you’re willing to share, and you’ll find it easier to connect with people.

Make friends a priority in your life.

We all have busy lives, so it can be difficult to not only make new friends, but to have friends that are close with us. However, if your goal is to have close friends because you don’t have any at the moment, then you got to make it a priority in your life.

Regardless of your work or school situation, you got to spend more time with either your current friends or going out to meet new ones. No excuses! If something is truly important to you, then you’ll make time for it somehow. And that is the mentality you should have when you want to make new close friends.

Try to spend time either after work or on your days off. Even if it’s only for a few hours, those few hours a week will make a HUGE difference in helping you make some close friends.

Pay attention to your behaviors.

This one is a little tricky to fix, because a lot of us feel like we are acting and doing the right things. But in fact, we may unintentionally acting in ways that turn off people. And unless we get outside feedback from others, it can be hard to know.

Here are some examples that can turn off others, including your friends:

• Always interrupting them and only talking about yourself.
• Not listening to your friends attentively.
• Taking from your friends and never giving back.

Most of these things can be fixed if you’re aware of it. Again, it can be hard to know if you’re doing things wrong. And sometimes, you may need someone to give you honest feedback about how you are.

What you can do is pay attention to how your friends react whenever you’re around them. If they react positively to you for the most part, then you’re fine. But if you notice they look angry or annoyed, then perhaps it’s time to change your behaviors.

Have good morals and ethics.

Last but not least, I think it’s important to have good morals and ethics if you want to attract friends that will be close to you. Let’s say you do a lot of sketchy or immoral stuff. Well, I would say most people wouldn’t mind being an acquaintance with you. But they definitely would NOT want to be close friends with you. Why? Because they don’t trust you!

Being an ethical person makes it easier to trust someone and be close with them. Living an honest life is the easiest way to do so.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are a variety of reasons why we may unable to make close friends. Whether it’s your own behaviors and standards that hold you back, or your need to open to others, the reasons can be numerous. But I’m sure if you were to change these things, you’ll have much better success making close friends.

I hope you found this post helpful! If you have any questions or feedback, or if you have any other suggestions on how to make close friends, let me know in the comments below.