How To Find Quality Friends
How to find quality friends!
In this day and age, it’s hard to find people you trust. While there are some truly great wonderful human beings out there, finding high-quality friends can be a tricky thing. Not only do you have to be careful with who you let in your circle, but it’s hard to know if someone is truly compatible with you as a friend right away.
But as someone who has dealt with a lot of people, I feel like I have a lot of experience knowing who are truly genuine versus someone who isn’t. And that’s what I’m here to talk about today!
In this post, I’ll give you 5 ways on how to find quality friends. Whether you’re a social butterfly or an introvert, you can use these strategies to help you find the right friends in your life. It’s definitely not easy but it will go a long way.
Without further ado let’s get started!
1. Make a list of what you’re looking for in a friend.
The first thing you should do when searching for good friends = figuring out what you’re actually looking for. It’s easy to say that you want “high quality” friends but what does that actually mean to you?
It could mean a lot of potential things, including:
- People who are popular
- Someone you could trust
- Someone you can rely on
- A wise friend
- A great listener
- Someone who is good-looking
To me, a high-quality friend is someone who exhibits good morals/ethics and treats you well. But if your definition is different, then you want to write or note this down. This is the best way to start, so you know what you’re looking for.
2. Set realistic expectations.
Before you set out on looking for your next best friend(s), you’ll want to be realistic with your expectations. In short, there is no “perfect” friend with no flaws. Remember that everyone is human and we all have our shortcomings, whether we like it or not.
For example, someone who is trustworthy and reliable may not have their stuff together in their life. Or someone who is attractive and popular may end up being someone who uses and takes advantage of you. So in your quest to find a great friend, you need to be careful and always set your boundaries. At the same time, you can’t expect perfection from people either. You need to be okay with that. As mentioned previously, the most important qualities is that they treat you with respect and that you can trust them.
3. Make yourself a better person to attract higher quality people.
Yes, this is also important! If you want to find good quality friends, you yourself better be just as good, if not better than that. The best kind of people are usually not going to hangout with someone who acts like a piece of s! While I’m not saying you need to be completely perfect, you want to be someone who treats people well and can be a trustworthy person.
I talk about improving yourself in a lot of my blog posts on my website. But in general, always think about giving value to others and listening to what others have to say. You don’t need to be a hardcore extrovert or have savvy social skills to attract good quality people!
4. Go out and meet new friends.
Hey, good quality people aren’t going to come to you! You will have to go out and meet them and take the initiative. The best thing you can do is put yourself out there and go to social events to meet new people.
Depending on your situation, you can meet people in several ways. If you’re in college or university, you can find lots of fellow students to meet. But if you’re reading this blog, you’re probably way past the post-secondary education phase of your life.
The beauty of being 30+ is that you’ll get to meet people around your age who are probably more mature and smarter than in your 20s. They’ve already been through a lot of learning experiences, so they themselves know how to be a good person. No guarantees though; I have met some immature people who were actually older than me!
I suggest going to events that are related to your hobbies and interests. So if you’re into hiking, perhaps you can go to a hiking group and meet people who are into the same things you are.
5. It takes time to know who’s a high-quality friend.
Last but not least, you should know that finding and knowing that you have a high-quality friend, that will take some time to happen.
For example, you won’t know if a friend is trustworthy the moment you meet them. It takes time to let them on your secrets and see if they can keep them or treat it like a news story for all your friends to know. Likewise, a friend may seem nice at first but later down the road, you may not be compatible with them after all. On the flip side, I’ve certainly met some great friends who seemed off-putting at first, but turned out to be some of the greatest friends I’ve ever met!
In all of these situations, it took me time to realize if they were a good friend to me or not. So you should know that when you’re looking for high-quality friends, it’s not something that will happen overnight. It will take some time before you can build a wonderful circle of friends. 🙂
Summary
To summarize, here are the 5 tips you should know on how to find quality friends:
- Make a list of what you’re looking for in a friend.
- Set realistic expectations.
- Make yourself a better person to attract higher quality people.
- Go out and meet new friends.
- It takes time to know who’s a high-quality friend.
And there you have it; 5 tips on finding quality friends! I hope you found this post useful.
If you have any questions, leave them in the comments below!
