Here’s How To Be A Good Friend To Guys!
How to be a good friend to guys!
Unless you don’t like people, you want to have friends and treat them well. This is including guys who always make for great friends! Whatever gender you are, having guy friends is nice to have. They can be there when you need them and for the most part, they will treat you well.
But if you want to be a good friend to your guy friends, are there any differences with how you should treat them, compared to other genders? What are the things you should know when it comes to your guy friends? That’s what we will be discussing today.
In this post, I’ll go over 5 best strategies on how to be a good friend to guys. Being a guy myself that has guy friends, I certainly have experience with this! You will have everything you need to know about how to the best friend to your guy friends.
Before we begin, you should know that not all guys are the same. While I’m sure many of your guy friends will appreciate these strategies below, everyone is different and may react differently.
Without further ado, let’s get started.
1. Don’t be a liability to them.
When it comes to guy friends, the first thing you should know is that you need to compliment their life, not be a hassle to them. The last thing a guy wants is a friend who becomes a headache to them. If you end being a hassle, they will either want to spend less time with you, or cut you out of their life altogether. It can be unfortunate but that’s the way it is. If you’re not romantically involved with them or you’re a hassle, why would they want to hangout with you?
So when it comes to guy friends, you want to be someone who is fun to hang around. Someone that will complement their life. Just because they’re your friend, that doesn’t mean you should use them as your emotional bag or someone that’s transactional!
2. Do not dismiss their feelings.
There is a stereotype that guys don’t really have feelings and if they do, they are not being manly at all. But that was never true to begin with. And in today’s world, it’s totally acceptable for a man to express his feelings.
When it comes to your guy friends, you should never dismiss their feelings or emotions that they have. The worst thing you can do is tell a guy to “man up.” Because not only are you emasculating him, you are dismissing the feelings he may have. To be a good friend to guys, you need to be a good listener and be on their side.
Which leads me to my next point…
3. It’s about being their friend and not their enemy.
Maybe it’s just me, but I find that guys tend to have a more simplistic view with social relationships. I find that females tend to have nuanced relationships; they can get into a verbal fight with someone and make up and be friends right after.
However, guys are not quite the same. They either view someone as their friend or as an enemy. So if you are supposed to be their friend, then don’t do things that could get you categorized as an enemy! As mentioned previously, don’t be a liability to them or a headache. Because if you’re a drag on their life, they will not appreciate it and view you as not a friend to them.
Now I’m not saying that you have be a yes person to them and agree with everything they say and do. In fact, you want to be that friend who wants what’s best for them, even if it means upsetting them from time to time. When they’re acting stupid, you want to be that person to guide them back to better ways. Or if someone tries to hurt them emotionally, you want to be there to support them or protect them. Basically, you want to be on their side of the team!
4. Do care about their reputation.
Social status is always a big factor when it comes to our lives. We always want to be seen as top dog to everyone else around us. And this is true for your guy friends. One of the worst things you can do is make him look bad in front of others. That will quickly get you in their enemy category and even lose out on their friendship.
Here are some examples of ways you can wreck their reputation:
- Airing out their secrets that they trusted with you.
- Making them look bad in front of a bunch of people.
- Talking bad behind their backs.
Bringing down a guy’s reputation is a BIG no-no in the friendship. But it’s easy to not do this. You basically just do the opposite, including:
- Keeping the guy’s valuable secrets only to you and not to others.
- Talking about your friend in a positive light during a social setting.
- Only saying good things about your guy friend (or saying nothing at all).
If you’re someone who can keep a guy’s reputation in good standing, they will keep you as a friend!
5. Spend time with them when they ask you to.
At least from my experience, a guy friend always want people to hangout when they ask. Of course your time is valuable and you may not be able to make every single event they host.
But if you can, you should make the time to go hangout with them. It shows that are valued as a friend and you enjoy their company. As a guy myself, I always feel happy when a friend is able to come out to something I ask them to. I understand that not everyone can come out all the time, but I always appreciate when they do.
Summary
To summarize, here are the 5 best ways on how to be a good friend to guys:
- Don’t be a liability to them.
- Do not dismiss their feelings.
- It’s about being their friend and not their enemy.
- Do care about their reputation.
- Spend time with them when they ask you to.
And there you have it; 5 ways on how to be a good friend to guys. I hope you found this post informative!
If you have any questions or feedback, leave them in the comments below.
